NAPA VALLEY, Calif. – “What are we doing for Thanksgiving this year?” Lynn asked, her voice calm as she leaned against the kitchen counter. Our elder cat Gnocchi, perched nearby, let out a long, dramatic meow, as if to weigh in.
Outside, the November rain tapped a rhythm on the windows, soft but insistent. The smell of baking sourdough hung in the air — a tang of yeast, browning crust and warmth. I’d taken the bread out of the oven minutes ago, its golden shell crackling softly as it cooled.
I shrugged. “What if we keep it simple? Just something for us.”
Lynn gave me one of her knowing grins, the kind that said she already had a plan in mind. She turned back to the stove, where a pot of broth bubbled quietly. The smells began to build — soy, ginger and roasted mushrooms mingling in a warm, savory symphony.
“Remember when the kids were little?” I said, running a hand over the bread’s crust. The sound of it — a hard tap giving way to a hollow thud — was familiar, grounding. “We’d always make that sourdough stuffing with mushrooms. Oyster mushrooms, leeks and carrots sautéed just right in olive oil?”
She smiled but didn’t look up, carefully slicing tofu into neat cubes. Gnocchi padded over, tail swishing, and stared at her with a gaze only a cat of his age could muster. His purr started low, rising to fill the room as he stretched up, one paw reaching toward her knee, as if to say, “What about me?”
This year would be different. The kids had their own lives now, their plans far from ours. And though I’d never admit it, I wasn’t really mourning the stuffing or the potatoes. I was mourning the noise — the clamor of voices, the chaos of family gathered all in one place.
“Do you ever think about what we’re really chasing with Thanksgiving?” Lynn asked, quieter now. She glanced down at Gnocchi, who flicked his tail once, twice, then settled back down. “For me, it’s not the food, even if it used to be. It’s the day itself. The pause. The gathering.”
“Yeah,” I said, surprising myself with the ease of the word.
The rain outside quickened, filling the pause between us. The house, though quiet, held an echo of memory — the clatter of serving spoons on ceramic bowls, tiny feet running down the hall, the sharp pop of a cork. Always, someone would sneak an early roll from the basket. Always, someone would laugh when caught.
“I could make ramen,” Lynn said, raising an eyebrow.
I grinned. “Thanksgiving ramen? That’s a thing now?”
“It could be,” she said, turning back to the broth. “Warm. Nourishing. A little bowl of connection.”
The word hung there. Connection.
For a moment, I let myself drift to the noisy, messy beauty of those Thanksgivings past. I didn’t feel sad — not exactly. It was more like I was carrying those moments forward, folding them into this one. Into the smell of sourdough, the gentle simmer of soup, the steady rhythm of rain.
Lynn plated the tofu with precision, glancing back with that same knowing grin. “You’ll eat it,” she teased.
And I would, of course. Because Thanksgiving wasn’t about the menu. It was about the memory, the time shared, the thread that stitched together all the years before and all the years to come.
The world feels fragile these days. Headlines pulse with uncertainty and unrest. Even the hum of everyday life feels tight, like the air itself is holding its breath. People carry on, but there’s an unease — a shared question about what comes next, about how we move forward.
In moments like these, the small rituals feel like lifelines. The rhythm of kneading sourdough, the warm, yeasty aroma rising from the oven — it’s grounding. A tether to something larger, something steady.
“Well,” I said, brushing flour from my hands, “at least we won’t have to argue over the last roll.”
Gnocchi let out a throaty meow, sharp and certain, cutting through the quiet. It wasn’t just about food. It was a call — a demand to be part of the moment. Maybe that’s all any of us hope for, to feel tethered to something beyond ourselves — a reminder that we’re passengers, carried forward together.
“I am the passenger,” Iggy Pop’s voice echoed in my mind, a line from years ago. “And I ride, and I ride.”
The bread had cooled. The broth simmered low. The rain fell steady against the glass.
The house held its silence, soft and full.
And in that stillness, something settled. Not an answer — more like a question. One carried forward on the same current, waiting.
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Tim Carl is a Napa Valley-based photojournalist.
A wonderful story, Tim. It reminded me of last year: My British son-in-law to be had always wanted to experience an American Thanksgiving, but was unable to make it over the pond in November, so I bought a Christmas turkey and put it in the freezer with a bag of cranberries, and when Douglas came to visit in January, on one Sunday, I roasted the turkey. Friends and family all came to the house, bringing the traditional dishes, and we had Thanksgiving with all the noise and chaos, and even the sweet potatoes with marshmallows, which I had never before cooked. You are so right, it's the gathering. Happy Thanksgiving.
Tim,
Your narrative touched my heart.
Tears formed.
Thank you.